i didn't want to .
she said ," why do you care what i think ? about the surrogate
" i don't knjw . lisa - isn't that much older than you . i was wondering if there is some.......generational influence at work in all this that i'm not aware of ."
"generational ?"
"diffirent worldview .i;m continually surprised at how much chnages ."
"interesting ," she said ."i'm constantly surprised at how much doesn't . music changes . movie changes . people ? not so much ."
she put down her glass and pick up her fork . after a feww seconds she set the silverware back down and lifher wineglass again . she cradled it in both hands and leaned toward me . her elbows were on the edge of the table , her face not far from mine ." you're what ten , twelve years older than me ?"
"arou d there , i guess ." i'd been thinking fifteen .
"is that a generation ?"
good question ." matbe ."
" i was raised to keep my promises ," she said ." to fulfill my responsibuility . i don't think those are generational specific values . not among my friends ."
i felt chastened ." you'rre right . absolutely . they're not . i don't know what i was thinking . i apologize ."
she sat back again ." i woudn't have made the decisions liss made . to be a surrohate ? i couldn't do that . i admired her generosity , butr..... it's not something i could ever do . but if i were carrying someone else's baby , i would feel an absolute responsibility to let them know where i was at all times . loaning your womb to asomeone ? that 's an incredible gift . but it's salso a pretty sacred trust . goes both ways , of course , but ..... inless lisa is a callous person - which is hard to believe about a surrogate - if i were in your ex-wife's shoes , i would be much more worried than angry .i can't imagine not staying in touch with the baby's parents , so i'm assuming that if lisa 's not in touch , she's not able to be in touch .
she said ," why do you care what i think ? about the surrogate
" i don't knjw . lisa - isn't that much older than you . i was wondering if there is some.......generational influence at work in all this that i'm not aware of ."
"generational ?"
"diffirent worldview .i;m continually surprised at how much chnages ."
"interesting ," she said ."i'm constantly surprised at how much doesn't . music changes . movie changes . people ? not so much ."
she put down her glass and pick up her fork . after a feww seconds she set the silverware back down and lifher wineglass again . she cradled it in both hands and leaned toward me . her elbows were on the edge of the table , her face not far from mine ." you're what ten , twelve years older than me ?"
"arou d there , i guess ." i'd been thinking fifteen .
"is that a generation ?"
good question ." matbe ."
" i was raised to keep my promises ," she said ." to fulfill my responsibuility . i don't think those are generational specific values . not among my friends ."
i felt chastened ." you'rre right . absolutely . they're not . i don't know what i was thinking . i apologize ."
she sat back again ." i woudn't have made the decisions liss made . to be a surrohate ? i couldn't do that . i admired her generosity , butr..... it's not something i could ever do . but if i were carrying someone else's baby , i would feel an absolute responsibility to let them know where i was at all times . loaning your womb to asomeone ? that 's an incredible gift . but it's salso a pretty sacred trust . goes both ways , of course , but ..... inless lisa is a callous person - which is hard to believe about a surrogate - if i were in your ex-wife's shoes , i would be much more worried than angry .i can't imagine not staying in touch with the baby's parents , so i'm assuming that if lisa 's not in touch , she's not able to be in touch .
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